Hey! Hey!! Hey!!! Todays post may sound a little controversial but try and take in some deep breaths then you will understand it clearly. Coming up with the name ‘MickyReacts’ gives me that kind of free range to talk about everything going on around us. I’m going to react to one of the most cherished moments in our lives. Regardless of where you find yourself, weddings are the most increasing events in todays era be it public or private. Notice how I didn’t say marriage but rather weddings because these are two complete different things.
All we see is not all there is. It takes discernment and an ordered step to make right choices.a wise man
As at 2018, 47% and 57% of males and females in Ghana were married respectively or were living in a union. Lets talk about how white wedding came about and how far its spread all over the globe.
White wedding is said to have originated from the Great Britain and the term stems from the color of the wedding dress obviously and it first became popular when Queen Victoria wore a white lace at her wedding ceremony. Thinking about this, would it have been called black wedding, green wedding, pink wedding, etc if she had worn any of these colors to the ceremony? Surprisingly, Americans during this period wore a plethora of colors during weddings. Victoria’s wedding spread across parts of the globe especially the Atlantic and throughout Europe and after that the Elites adopted this wedding style. Etiquette books begun to turn the event into a traditional activity and the white gown became a popular symbol of status which also carries a connotation of innocence and virginal purity. This form of wedding in the UK is known as the traditional wedding.
Let’s now shift the focus to our local setting as to know how it’s done here in Ghana. The traditional wedding here varies due to the different tribes existing in the country. As a result of this, the dress code is varies but the most typical is the brightly colored Kente which is worn by both the men and the women and it’s also adorned with gold jewelries and a regalia. One question I have always asked over and over again is, ‘if both are traditional weddings, why do we opt for both and not just go for one?’ If you have any answers kindly share them in the comment section, Thank you. I believe we are all aware of the cost factor involved as well and this is one of the many reasons why some people are held down when they want to get married.
I believe one problem we have as humans is the power of choice. Though a great blessing, it can also be a curse in the sense of choosing to go out of your means to have something grand only to please people then later reap the consequences. Our focus is mostly on what others will think when they attend our ceremonies whereas most people don’t even care how you funded the event. We find people having expensive weddings only for them to divorce after a few months if not a few years. Why waste so much money only to end up divorcing? By the way lemme emphatically state that, a huge wedding is not the reason for divorce. This is not to talk you out of having a grand wedding or buying the most expensive gown. You can do that if you can afford that.
Recently, there was a trending news on a married woman who got beaten up by her husband (actually, it was a two way beating with the guy ending up in the hospital. In no way should you start what you can’t finish 😅) and upon further investigations, it was brought to light that they borrowed 40 or 400 million cedis (it wasn’t specified whether it was the new or old currency) which is equivalent to 6,750,471 or 67,504,715 USD respectively for their wedding. Outrageous right? After their calculations before the wedding, the expectation was to get huge returns from well wishers but things didn’t go as planned so they were left in DEBT. Fast forward, they are getting a divorce after 2 years of marriage. Then again I ask, ‘are people living according to their means, or they are trying to impress people who don’t care?’
What we forget is, after the wedding you are left alone with your spouse to either enjoy the marriage or bear the pain. Under no circumstance am I saying don’t spend lavishly to have a white wedding. Even the traditional weddings in Ghana can also be expensive. This is to bring to our awareness that, living according to our means should be the most important priority. In all happiness, know that a good marriage stems from a strong foundation, knowledge and the grace of God. Why do you want to spend your lifetime with him/her? Is she interested in your vision? Is he ready to support you in your career? Can you still accept him/her after 5,10 or 20 years? A few of the questions should be asked before making that lifetime decision. God bless us all and give us the grace to make the best decision. Lemme know what you think about this.
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